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    July 26

    乐观的对待生活

    近期闲来无事,朋友帮我找了一个挣现金的活。去照顾一位得了帕金森氏症的老人。老太太今年七十二岁了,十几年前的的病。据说来北美有三十几年,艰苦奋斗一辈子,已经很有钱了,如今女儿当了脊柱医生,自己开了诊所,按说老太太该享点儿福了,可惜得了病,行动不方便了。身体已经极度的变形,靠轮椅,拐杖,walker才能移动。
     
    没去之前我想,能花得起钱雇人照顾,生活条件一定不错。没想到一进门,房间内的狭小,拥挤令人吃惊。估计也就是1000尺的房子,到处都堆满了东西,只有一人宽的地方留下来走路。六口之家住在里面,除了这个行动不便的老人外,还有两个小孩子。一个三岁,另一个刚刚一岁半。当他们在走廊里和奶奶相遇时,我真的不知道应该担心谁。是怕老人被撞倒,还是轮椅碰伤了小孩子?然而,她们似乎已经习惯了,在狭小的通道里相安无事。这样的生活环境,让我对生活标准的理解产生了困惑。他们家有钱,有钱为什么不买一个大一点的房子,把杂物和人的活动区域分开?把孩子和病人的活动区域分开。让老太太顺顺溜溜地推轮椅,顺顺溜溜地进洗手间,也免得行动不便的时候摔倒。看来人对金钱的支配方式大有不同。难怪有的时候,洋人对我们中国人看不惯。
     
    照顾老太太的一部分时间,是和她聊天。人老了话的确多,她的身体不好还能不停地讲上个把小时。她的经历还是很丰富。小时候去了越南,上的是华人学校,在中国读了大学,是个有文化,有教养的人,所以,普通话很好。对中国的历史,建国后的发展都很了解。越战时期逃难,来到北美这块人生地不熟的地方。生活的磨难使她的心胸博大,态度乐观。她不悲伤,不抱怨。她和我说,得了病,要知道怎样去面对。我和他在一起的两天里,亲眼看到。她拖着扭曲的神体,再发作不严重的时候,还自己洗洗毛巾,摘摘青菜。她说能做尽量自己做,这样可以锻炼自己的能力,延缓倒下去的时间。尽管她的躯干已经变形了,但她出门的时候,还是要穿的干干净净,甚至还想到上衣和裤子的颜色要搭配好。从她的病体上,我依然看到了生命力的旺盛。我的却很感动,想象世界上有很多比她健康的人,比她能力强的人,却失去了生活的信心。
     
    精神的高尚,是永远值得尊重和学习的。
     

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    wan xuewrote:
    这是一种生命的伟大韧性
    Aug. 6

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